Guy #200 – The fan?

I first kissed Guy #100 in full view of about a dozen Guys that had come and gone before him, making the story of Guy #100 a flashback episode of sorts. The ‘eponymous’ Guy #168 was someone I fell in love with the moment I met him. The experience turned out to be so intense […]

Guy #168 – Meet some of my issues…

“The path of excess leads to the palace of wisdom.” William Blake Ever since I started 168guys.com, the question I get asked the most pertains to what I will do after I reach 168 Guys. The answer is both simple and not so simple. Let’s start with simple. When I started writing this blog, the […]

Guy #163 – Being a dominant kiss-ass…

Being a psychologist who spends a lot of time in places where gays get naked, I see insecurity the way that kid from The Sixth Sense sees dead people: Insecurity is everywhere. It doesn’t know it’s insecure, although in the end it kind of does and for some reason I feel it’s my duty to […]

Guy #162 – The perfect relationship for when you don’t know how to have them…

I suppose Guy #162 was the perfect Guy in many ways. We never talked, we never committed, we never expected anything from each other, but each time we met we had the kind of sex that reminded me how fun living can be. Guy #162 and I only spoke with each other the night we […]

Guy #158 – Dumped by an angel…

It was January 1st 2016, 4 a.m. I had spent the night before celebrating New Year at a party at a friend of a friend’s house, gobbling up the free wine as if there was no tomorrow. The place was Amsterdam, the city that never sleeps for a good two days a year, one of those […]

Guy #136 and #137 – The ones who inspired this blog…

It’s not always easy not being the relationship type, especially when there are very few gay people around. In fact, living on a small Caribbean island most of my Grindr conversations were with tourists and the occasional flight attendant. My window of opportunity for getting dates was often small. There have been many, many gorgeous […]

Guy #? – A letter to a Guy I haven’t had sex with. Yet.

Guy #? and I met each other last December. We eyed, smiled and even talked to each other, flirted a little and took our relationship to the next level by becoming Facebook friends. Him being a French Guy living in Germany and me a Dutch one living in the Caribbean, we haven’t seen each other […]

Guy #96 – A long distance relationship that was absolutely fabulous until it absolutely wasn’t…

Guy #96 lived in Europe. I lived in South America. We had met on the internet. The two of us had a fantastic relationship together. It lasted 1 ½ years. The first time we saw each other in real life was after 1 ½ years. We would send lengthy emails back and forth, call each […]

Guy #87 – Trying to be me…

Sometimes I miss Guy #87. Sexually speaking, he was the cream of the crop. He looked awesome, felt better and our performance was stellar. When I think of Guy #87, I wonder about what could have been, what I did wrong and what he never told me. On paper and in practice, Guy #87 was […]

Guy #57 (Part 1) – Love.

I was 18 the first time I fell in love. She was the perfect daughter-in-law: Smart, funny, independent and pretty. I imagined us becoming part of each other’s family, going on fun family weekends. I had literally dreamed about us making tender love on one of our camping trips. In my heart I was ready […]

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