Selfies can be deceptive.
I’ve come across internet profiles from men that go by one and the same picture for years at an end. It’s because they only have that one picture in which they look good. I don’t trust profiles with only one picture.
Guy #39 taught me.
Guy #39 looked good in his selfie. I thought it would be greedy of me to ask for more pictures of him looking horny, but I now know my greed had motivated me to go on this date in the first place. I should have listened to my greed as one does on sex dates.
On the other hand I ended up liking the fact Guy #39 had deceived me into getting to know him.
We clicked. I found myself very comfortable with him. We laughed a lot.
We both knew his selfie was ten years old and heavily photoshopped. But it was okay. Lying is often part of a sex date.
In the end Guy #39 even told me he wished he was hot like he used to be. I guess that was his way of saying sorry for the lie that was his selfie.
Selfies are good for making us feel like we look good. I think I made Guy #39 feel he looked like his selfie again.
I was approaching 30 when I first started photoshopping myself. I was amazed by what the contrast button could do to my abs.
Though I’m hardly ever on dating sites these days I do update them every so often with my latest pictures of me looking bored into a mirror, holding up a phone, wearing a towel. It’s my way of letting people know I’m not a person with only one good picture.
Over the years my selfies have become increasingly beautiful. And increasingly deceptive. And as I grow older, I will stop uploading selfies every so often. If I stay single I might end up being a guy with only one selfie.
I wonder what my life would have been like had I come out sooner. I enjoyed the gay scene very much, but at times I wish hadn’t spent the first 24 years of my life being so afraid of it.
Then I might have met Guy #39 around the time his selfie was taken.